Karen B. Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 Isn’t it Upsetting when you lose a fish to a mistake that could have been easily avoided? Clown killifish are also called rocket fish because they jump through every opening they can find (apparently). I’ve had mine for over a year now, never saw a single one jump… so I got a bit careless in always closing the lid really tight and covering the food hole. But tonight I found a little female completely dry on the floor… So upset at myself!! Especially a female as I have way too many males atm. Live and learn, I know, but still upsetting that a living creature has to pay for my mistake. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beardedbillygoat1975 Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 @Karen B.i wish this got easier but I feel like the longer I’ve been in the hobby the harder I get down on myself about these sorts of things. You’re definitely not alone with this. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guppysnail Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 (edited) I’m sorry I meant to hit the cry eyes face and my finger hit the confused it won’t let me change it. (It finally left me change it I think) I’m so sorry for your loss. I had this happen in a guppy qt and lost 2 females. 😭. I know first hand how horrible it feels. Edited November 27, 2021 by Guppysnail 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taco Playz Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 Sorry that happened.. I've had shrimp climb out of the tank and fish found on the floor before. I know how you feel. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GameCzar Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 I always find myself second guessing whether I should be keeping fish when I lose one. I'm always feeling like there's more I could have done, but I just have to learn from my mistakes. Chin up, in the end its worth it. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scott the fishman Posted November 27, 2021 Share Posted November 27, 2021 On 11/26/2021 at 9:55 PM, Karen B. said: Isn’t it Upsetting when you lose a fish to a mistake that could have been easily avoided? Clown killifish are also called rocket fish because they jump through every opening they can find (apparently). I’ve had mine for over a year now, never saw a single one jump… so I got a bit careless in always closing the lid really tight and covering the food hole. But tonight I found a little female completely dry on the floor… So upset at myself!! Especially a female as I have way too many males atm. Live and learn, I know, but still upsetting that a living creature has to pay for my mistake. So sorry for your lost! about 3 weeks ago i posted the same topic from a mistake i made costing the life of my zebra loach. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torrey Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 I'm so sorry, and it's really easy to beat ourselves up. Try to extend as much grace to yourself, as you would to anyone in here. We are all learning, and sometimes we learn painful lessons. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lefty o Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 you are not alone. it sucks, but i can guarantee you that every single person here has lost fish due to something they did or could have done differently. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xXInkedPhoenixX Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 I second @lefty o's motion. We all have done it and we all understand how you feel about it. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen B. Posted November 28, 2021 Author Share Posted November 28, 2021 On 11/27/2021 at 9:48 AM, GameCzar said: I always find myself second guessing whether I should be keeping fish when I lose one. I'm always feeling like there's more I could have done, but I just have to learn from my mistakes. Chin up, in the end its worth it. I know what you mean! I felt like that a lot at the beginning when I was losing guppies (didn’t help that in Canada we don’t have medication so I couldn’t properly quarantine) and still do with shrimps. I swear I am a shrimps serial killer. On shrimps group, people keep saying how their shrimps requires no special care, they don’t do anything in particular for them, neglect them, temp swing, you name it, 0 death. I look at mine funny and the day after I find 2 deaths. Bleh. It’s just worst when you KNOW what caused it and it was 100% your fault. But as you said - best thing to do is learn! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen B. Posted November 28, 2021 Author Share Posted November 28, 2021 On 11/27/2021 at 6:03 PM, scott the fishman said: So sorry for your lost! about 3 weeks ago i posted the same topic from a mistake i made costing the life of my zebra loach. So sorry to hear that you went through this as well. On 11/27/2021 at 10:28 PM, lefty o said: you are not alone. it sucks, but i can guarantee you that every single person here has lost fish due to something they did or could have done differently. @lefty o @xXInkedPhoenixX Thank you. It feels nice to have a place to come and know people will understand. For so many « it’s only fish, just buy more » but we care for them so much, they become pets. It’s a little « easier » when it’s a schooling fish as you get a bit less attached (but it’s no less upsetting!) but when it’s a centerpiece fish or one you named, it really is hard. I am still not over the death of Darcy, my betta. He was so beautiful! 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lindabee53 Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 11:29 AM, Karen B. said: @lefty o @xXInkedPhoenixX Thank you. It feels nice to have a place to come and know people will understand. For so many « it’s only fish, just buy more » but we care for them so much, they become pets. It’s a little « easier » when it’s a schooling fish as you get a bit less attached (but it’s no less upsetting!) but when it’s a centerpiece fish or one you named, it really is hard. I am still not over the death of Darcy, my betta. He was so beautiful! Absolutely beautiful! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brandon p Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 Same thing haves last week to me. Never feels good. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 Been there, done that. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brandon p Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 Most of us probably have and the longer you keep fish it will happen again and it will feel bad then 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minanora Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 I am sorry for your loss. We all make mistakes! A few weeks ago I got some Amano shrimp... I was going by the advice of my LFS because of my pH... and didn't do any research beforehand since I had originally wanted to get cherry shrimp and had done my research but was worried about the differences between my water parameters and what my LFS keeps their shrimp at. Long story short, I didn't think about my crazy hard water... I started with 5 Amanos, I now have 1. I'm working on lowering my GH. But I still felt like a bad fish/shrimp mom for not thinking about this parameter. Doing my best to keep moving forward. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odd Duck Posted November 28, 2021 Share Posted November 28, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 1:40 PM, Minanora said: I started with 5 Amanos, I now have 1. You may have more Amanos than you realize, they are excellent at hiding. I was convinced I was down to one in my old pea puffer tank and I transferred him/her to my 100 G when I moved the puffers to their new 29 G. I just saw another Amani in that tank. I’ve been leaving it empty just in case there were any pea puffer eggs or Amanos hiding. So far, just an Amano has shown up and he hid before I could get a net. Still waiting and monitoring. Haven’t seen him since. 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ @Karen B. We probably have all made mistakes that have cost fish or shrimp lives. We just need to do our best to not repeat those mistakes, learn, and become better fishkeepers. It’s hard to lose our little friends but it’s an unfortunate part of life sometimes. As long as we try as hard as we can, that’s all anybody can ask of themselves. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minanora Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 12:49 PM, Odd Duck said: excellent at hiding I wish this was the case. However carcases don't lie. 😞 There's only one. I watch my tanks for many hours a day, count all the fish, look for anything discolored, etc. Sadly I've counted out all of the Amano carcases as they've passed. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xXInkedPhoenixX Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 (edited) @Minanora it's no comfort but I've sadly killed every shrimp I've tried to keep so I've quit trying. Edited November 29, 2021 by xXInkedPhoenixX 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odd Duck Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 8:35 PM, Minanora said: I wish this was the case. However carcases don't lie. 😞 There's only one. I watch my tanks for many hours a day, count all the fish, look for anything discolored, etc. Sadly I've counted out all of the Amano carcases as they've passed. You’re absolutely certain they’re carcasses and not molts? On 11/28/2021 at 8:42 PM, xXInkedPhoenixX said: @Minanora it's no comfort but I've sadly killed every shrimp I've tried to keep so I've quit trying. I’m not as successful with shrimp as I’d like to be, that’s for sure. I can grow scuds, though. 😝 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xXInkedPhoenixX Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 @Odd Duck I think though everything else I have is perfect for them, my Nitrates probably kill them. They are consistently at 40ppm in most of my tanks though everybody else seems fine with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minanora Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 9:12 PM, Odd Duck said: You’re absolutely certain they’re carcasses and not molts? 🤔 .... You know, that's not something I even considered. I always assume failure. I guess it could be. I'll have to investigate further tomorrow. I see ghost hued things at the bottom and assume the worst. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torrey Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 10:42 PM, Minanora said: 🤔 .... You know, that's not something I even considered. I always assume failure. I guess it could be. I'll have to investigate further tomorrow. I see ghost hued things at the bottom and assume the worst. A shrimp carcass will turn pink. A ghost looking thing sounds more like a molt. I freaked out the first time I found a molt, I thought the shrimp had died😅 Once I found an actual dead shrimp, I never mistook a molt for a dead shrimp, again. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odd Duck Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 11:34 PM, xXInkedPhoenixX said: @Odd Duck I think though everything else I have is perfect for them, my Nitrates probably kill them. They are consistently at 40ppm in most of my tanks though everybody else seems fine with it. That isn’t ideal but shouldn’t kill them. That’s likely overfeeding or you need more plants. I was struggling with some tanks (pea puffers are such messy eaters!) but when I added more epiphytes/Java ferns (water column feeders) the nitrates sorted themselves almost immediately. I had loads of swords and crypts in the tank, but because I heavy handed with the live food, the nitrates would tend to be higher than ideal 40ish. Put in a bunch of Java ferns to break sight lines better and almost right away down to 10ish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xXInkedPhoenixX Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 On 11/29/2021 at 4:06 AM, Odd Duck said: That’s likely overfeeding or you need more plants. Nope and nope. I guarantee you I don't overfeed, 1x a day and not much. And I have a whole buncha plants. In fact they're wildly out of control in one tank right now. It might be source water but I don't think so. 3 of 5 tanks have 40ppm, the other 2 are 20 or 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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