Karen B. Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 Greetings nerms! Let’s just all vent and share what upsets us or bothers us the most in this hobby. Don’t get me wrong, I love this hobby, but… What upsets me the most is « not knowing », not understanding what I am doing wrong, the uncertainty or the whole « there is no definite way », the trial and errors… Like a fish suddenly passing out, for no reason…. Like why can I breed and raise clown killifish yet I can’t get my cory fry to live more then a day. Either when I raise then with the clown killifish fry, or in their separate container… nothing works! Or why can’t I have a lot of shrimps? I see them berried, I see babies, but so few reach adulthood even in a shrimps only tank running for a year plus… or in a tank with clown killifish. Even my adults die more often then they should. These are the main things that gets me the most. I feel like such a failure at times. Like 4 days ago, I had 12 fertile corydoras eggs on my glass. I leave them in the aquarium until I see them darken/about to hatch then moved them. All hatched. 2 days later, only 1 survivor. 😓 I put so much time and care and money and I worry so much that it sometimes feels too much to bear. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wrencher_Scott Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 (edited) What bothers me the most is the thousands (seems like) of myths about this hobby that are just plain wrong but have carried on for decades. I am no expert (and I don't think it's possible to be an expert on all things aquarium) but man I've heard some stuff from people that work at Petco for example tell me and other some silly stuff. And what is scary is I've heard lots of this stuff before. On 3/29/2022 at 11:05 AM, Karen B. said: I put so much time and care and money and I worry so much that it sometimes feels too much to bear. Yes! I was just telling my son the other day that I should have got a hamster! 😞 Edited March 29, 2022 by Wrencher_Scott 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Henry the fish keeper Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 What upset me the most is when my favorite/centerpiece fish dies for no reason at all. No matter how much I test my water everything looks normal. 😭 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick_G Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 In Germany you can buy cycled media at a LFS (as seen on one of Cory’s videos). If we had that option in other countries it would really help beginners! 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wrencher_Scott Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 11:43 AM, Patrick_G said: In Germany you can buy cycled media at a LFS (as seen on one of Cory’s videos). If we had that option in other countries it would really help beginners! Here in the good ol' USA my local fish stores will sell you a used sponge filter for this purpose. You just pay for their replacement. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen B. Posted March 29, 2022 Author Share Posted March 29, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 2:43 PM, Patrick_G said: In Germany you can buy cycled media at a LFS (as seen on one of Cory’s videos). If we had that option in other countries it would really help beginners! Imagine if in Canada we could buy meds instead of just watching our fish die … 😡 On 3/29/2022 at 2:32 PM, Wrencher_Scott said: What bothers me the most is the thousands (seems like) of myths about this hobby that are just plain wrong but have carried on for decades. I am no expert (and I don't think it's possible to be an expert on all things aquarium) but man I've heard some stuff from people that work at Petco for example tell me and other some silly stuff. And what is scary is I've heard lots of this stuff before. Even in FB groups! I am from Québec, so most people speak only french and don’t have access to as many sources of information as others… Some of the things I read are so archaic I cringe but I have stopped trying to argue… -let your water sit for 24 hours before WC (although we do have prime available everywhere!) -air stones/sponge filter will harm your plants (euh….) 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CT_ Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 I think @Karen B. nailed it for me. It's also easy to misinterpret good advice or technically true statements. As I've found out the hard way multiple times the "you can" do xyz advice is usually setting up a novice for failure or a harder time than than is necessary. I've learned to look for the "its easiest when" advice now. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guppysnail Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 The only two things that really get my knickers knotted are cleaning canister hose lines 🤢🤮and nitrate tests. I cannot differentiate color well even on coop strips (though those are easier a bit to see than api liquid). Everything else is an adventure to me 😁 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Streetwise Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 I am still annoyed by duckweed management with shrimp fry. I’m not sure that it will ever get easier. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lefty o Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 cherry shrimp are the bane of my existance. can keep them alive, have even had some berried, never once a shrimplet. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fishguy Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 When a fish dies. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Widgets Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 2:32 PM, Wrencher_Scott said: What bothers me the most is the thousands (seems like) of myths about this hobby that are just plain wrong but have carried on for decades. The UGF has fallen out of favor due the HOB and canister manufacturers campaign to discredit them in favor of filtration devices that have a recurring income source. Many of the arguments are only half true and are distortions of the facts. Too many have abandoned the UGF out of fear based upon these advertising claims instead of solid facts. Too bad the manufacturers didn't choose to promote a synergistic filtration solution. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bev C Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 Complete Hobby I do not drive and have only Walmart and Dollar Store my local stores does not have a good pet department so if something breaks can not go out and get .. so I try having a spare of heater, filter , and air pump filter supplies .. Fish .. When Fish are sick and dying I try my best and quarantine and meds but hate when one dies & Hate when i have more then one dying can not figure out what happened .. Most my fish are old and pretty healthy but it happens occasionally Plants When you have plants dying or have had algae for long months .. and you try everything everyone recommends and you work very hard ,, nothing works and find out it is you tap water not the fertilizer or lights 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ken Burke Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 4:35 PM, lefty o said: cherry shrimp are the bane of my existance. can keep them alive, have even had some berried, never once a shrimplet. me too! Except the other way around…..I reproduce way too fast for me…. 1 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen B. Posted March 29, 2022 Author Share Posted March 29, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 6:50 PM, Ken Burke said: me too! Except the other way around…..I reproduce way too fast for me…. Pft!!!!! 😭 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wrencher_Scott Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 3:04 PM, Widgets said: The UGF has fallen out of favor due the HOB and canister manufacturers campaign to discredit them in favor of filtration devices that have a recurring income source. Many of the arguments are only half true and are distortions of the facts. Too many have abandoned the UGF out of fear based upon these advertising claims instead of solid facts. Too bad the manufacturers didn't choose to promote a synergistic filtration solution. Agreed 100%. Not enough profit in the UG. I use one along with my canister (which has zero throw away media in it btw) 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
modified lung Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 The power outlet are always in the worst possible place. 3 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lefty o Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 5:50 PM, Ken Burke said: me too! Except the other way around…..I reproduce way too fast for me…. send extra's to me!!!!🤪 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen B. Posted March 30, 2022 Author Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 9:54 PM, lefty o said: send extra's to me!!!!🤪 Get in line, I was here first!!! 😅😝 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wrencher_Scott Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 6:50 PM, modified lung said: The power outlet are always in the worst possible place. aha yes! I added a new one before I setup my tank. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
modified lung Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 7:33 PM, Wrencher_Scott said: aha yes! I added a new one before I setup my tank. Come do my house next. I only have 5 three pronge outlets. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wrencher_Scott Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 7:45 PM, modified lung said: Come do my house next. I only have 5 three pronge outlets. in the whole house?? 😮 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
modified lung Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 8:02 PM, Wrencher_Scott said: in the whole house?? 😮 Yes. #CaliforniaLivin 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ken Burke Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 8:54 PM, lefty o said: send extra's to me!!!!🤪 U pick up. Any day the ends in “y”😜 seriously, when the bottom of your 20g looks like the red carpet at the Oscar’s, it’s time to thin the herd. I’ll try and get a better picture tomorrow after work…. From your picture I’m guessing your a Navy man, so don’t tell anyone you got them from a broken down old Airman…… 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lefty o Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 On 3/29/2022 at 10:24 PM, Ken Burke said: U pick up. Any day the ends in “y”😜 seriously, when the bottom of your 20g looks like the red carpet at the Oscar’s, it’s time to thin the herd. I’ll try and get a better picture tomorrow after work…. From your picture I’m guessing your a Navy man, so don’t tell anyone you got them from a broken down old Airman…… i would never admit to anyone i was talking to a chair force member!😎 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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