Basically if two of them are hanging around together, fighting the others but not each other then it's a pair. The extended rays of the male in wild rams isn't a very good indication in captive bred rams especially the different colour forms because they could well have some long finned genes in them. The purple bellies in some of the photos says female, 2 of them look male but like I said behaviour is the best indicator
The one in the photo on its own looks male